Do you need to use a spoon when you eat spaghetti?

No not at all! you only need a fork, and possibly a knife to cut it. but generally no. and in any case the only thing to use a spoon for is to put gravy on your spaghetti, but usually you use a ladle. and if your family is concerned about making a mess, just push your seat in, and lean your mouth over your plate vs. bringing your fork to you, it'll make it much cleaner!